The fundamental problem most patients have is an inability to love themselves, having been unloved by others during some crucial part of their lives.
The #1 problem most patients face is the inability to love themselves
Hell is the inability to love.
Hell is the suffering of being unable to love.
Old people love to give good advice; it compensates them for their inability to set a bad example.
I think that the inability to love is the central problem, because that inability masks a certain terror, and that terror is the terror of being touched. And if you can't be touched, you can't be changed. And if you can't be changed, you can't be alive.