Make clear that people understand what your circumstances are. And looking for pity - that's a mistake.
...maximize the serendipity around you.
It's a pity we ran out of daylight. But it's quite good now that it ended the way it did, because we can sort of carry on from last time. It was so close. This time, we can go at it again.
It's a pity that yet again we went down to a goal from a free kick although something strange happened there. The players thought that the whistle had gone for a foul before they conceded a goal.
It's a pity that the people who loved John can't love each other.
It's a pity that I failed to reach the final to face Federer.
It's a pity striker Wayne Rooney is suspended for the game. I can't say what formation I will use, but I'll probably have two up front,
It's a pity some players couldn't come because of injuries. But the level of tennis we witnessed was very high.
It's a pity I couldn't play, because we've got an incredible crowd in, the weather's perfect and these are the sorts of games everyone wants to play.
Most of our misfortunes are more supportable than the comments of our friends upon them.