Give, but, if possible, spare the poor man the shame of begging.
Rather than diminishing the idea of 'truly needing' a relationship - and trying to deny it, shame it, or talk ourselves out of it - why not just celebrate it? It's exactly what the world needs.
I'll tell you, in my life I've never once have seen a Hispanic panhandler, because in our community, it would be viewed as shameful to be out on the street begging. Those are all conservative values - faith, family, hard work, responsibility.
The poor taxpayer may wipe his shoes on a $3 doormat when he goes home, but not the Navy. It is, damn the cost, full feet ahead on a doormat you would be ashamed to get muddy.
Second in state, definitely a good accomplishment. Nothing to be ashamed of. A lot of kids do well one year and the next year they do the same or worse. I was happy that I could at least say that I improved.
Sender authentication solutions are very slow to reach maturity, and that is simply a shame on the ISPs, who have not been aggressive enough in developing the specs and deploying them in full force.
So live that you wouldn't be ashamed to sell the family parrot to the town gossip.
So live that you wouldn't be ashamed to sell the familiy parrotto the town gossip.
My charity is outrage, life my shame; And in that shame still live my sorrow's rage!
A true repentance shuns the evil itself, more than the external suffering or the shame.