Rosalind Wiseman Quotations

Well, I think having your kids see you role model behavior of dignity when it's hard, when you're upset, when you want to confront somebody but you don't want to and you're nervous about it, when you are having moments where abuse of power is coming on to you. I think it's really important for kids to see how you handle that.

The hazing experience and then the subsequent participation in the group forces its members to maintain the status quo and traditions at all costs. It demands mindlessness and unquestioned loyalty, resulting in boring people who have little ability to think for themselves or have an opposing viewpoint from those who have the most social power.

Sometimes bullies are your friends and very rarely do bullying prevention tips acknowledge this fact or what to do about it.

When I tell people I work to stop hazing in high schools I am almost always met with shocked expressions. High school? Really? I thought that was something that only arrogant frat guys do in college. But its true - as long as I have worked on preventing bullying in high schools, I have worked to prevent hazing.

Being a parent does not give you an excuse for bad manners.

As a teacher myself I've been in situations where parents come at you, and sometimes parents come across like the teacher doesn't want the best for their kid and it can be really, really hurtful.

As an expert, I can deal with complex problems. As a mother it is much, much harder.

Advancements in technology have become so commonplace that sometimes we forget to stop and think about how incredible it is that a girl on her laptop in Texas can see photos and cell phone video in real time that a young college student has posted of a rally he's at in Iran.

You can't make someone be your best friend.

Boys and boys' body image and clothes have become just as important an issue for boys as for girls.

Sleeping with your phone in your bedroom is never a good idea, but it's even worse when you're bullied online because it's too tempting to stay up all night trying to 'fix' the situation - which isn't possible anyway.

By the time a child reaches out to an adult, the vast majority of kids have been dealing with the bullying and trying to ignore it for a long time.

Mothers and fathers do really crazy things with the best of intentions.

Kids don't like being put into boxes, and your kid can act in different ways in different situations.

Communicating a passionate response to world events is no longer limited to protests and rallies.

Nobody ever talks about the mean things that girls do to each other.

So many women keep their anger inside and let it build until they explode and then people blow them off again.

Good home-school educational plans have the kids in groups with other children often and consistently. Because common sense dictates that isolating people is never good and home-schooled children really benefit from being in those type of programs.

Many kids who are bullied feel helpless. Sometimes, they think the only thing they can do is hope the problem will go away. But there are things you can do to get some control in the situation and it starts with developing a strategy and a support system.

I talk to teens everyday about topics that are often extraordinarily uncomfortable.

In my own family, my mother had my sister when I was 15 and for various reasons, I was extremely involved in raising her.

I think that giving mindless praise is ridiculous. But I understand why parents do it. They want their kids to feel good about themselves. But parents are never going to teach their children true, positive self esteem by praising everything they do.

See, at a certain point it becomes cool to be boy crazy. That happens in sixth grade, and it gives you so much social status, particularly in an all-girls school, if you can go up and talk to boys.

Kids for the most part talk to me about parents gossiping about each other and the other kids. I can't think of one kid who didn't know where her parents fit in the parents' social hierarchy.

You can't blame people for being inconsistent parents if they're receiving inconsistent advice.

You judge yourself and other parents according to perfect-parent myths.

American kids are more cynical than any other groups of kids I've worked with. I think this is the case because we, as a country, have gotten a little confused about the family's values of standing up for what's right, apologizing when wrong and moral courage. People act according to their values when it's easy and everyone is getting along, but act totally against our values when we perceive someone is doing us wrong.

American kids are more cynical than any other groups of kids I've worked with.

Social isolation is one of the most devastating things you can do to a human being; I don't care how old you are.

How are you supposed to concentrate on your schoolwork when all you can think about is 'Everybody hates me'?

THE POWER OF THE GROUP We all want to feel a sense of belonging. This isn’t a character flaw. It’s fundamental to the human experience. Our finest achievements are possible when people come together to work for a common cause. School spirit, the rightful pride we feel in our community, our heritage, our religion, and our families, all come from the value we place on belonging to a group.

I tell young girls, "The world is going to exploit and manipulate your sexuality. If you benefit from that financially, then you are part of the problem." That said, I thought all those parents flipping out over the Video Music Awards were ridiculous - women have been twerking in clubs for 20, 30 years. There's a real lack of awareness about what's going on across many layers of our culture.