If somebody asks, "What is a dance?" how can you define it? But you can dance and you can know the inner feel of it.
Don't seek, don't search, don't ask, don't knock, don't demand - relax. If you relax, it comes. If you relax, it is there. If you relax, you start vibrating with it.
We never ask the meaning of life when we are in love.
This is going to be a hard task for you, first to attain and then to lose - because you can lose only something which you possess. If you don't possess it, how can you lose it?