To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.
Enlightenment means choosing to dwell in a state of presence rather than in time. It means saying yes to what is.
Even my desire to become free or enlightened is just another craving for fulfillment or completion in the future. So don’t seek to become free or desire or “achieve” enlightenment. Become present.
Become an alchemist. Transmute base metal into gold, suffering into consciousness, disaster into enlightenment.
Nonresistance, nonjudgment, and nonattachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living.
Being an outsider to some extent, someone who does not "fit in" with others or is rejected by them for whatever reason, makes life difficult, but it also places you at an advantage as far as enlightenment is concerned. It takes you out of unconsciousness almost by force.
You are not seeking to attain some future state. That is the fallacy of many spiritual seekers. They have an image of some state - enlightenment, or whatever they call it - they want to achieve.
So the single most vital step on your journey towards enlightenment is this: learn to disidentify from your mind.
If there isn't an emanation of love and joy, complete presence and openness toward all beings, then it is not enlightenment.