What you want to do is to get to the point where you only do what matters to you. The real goal in life is to become more of who you are, so that you can make the choices that really satisfy who you are and what you want to do.
What matters is how you feel inside, because feeling beautiful on the inside is key to looking good.
It doen't matter what you've been through, where you come from... none of that matters. What matters is how you choose to love, how you choose to express that love through your work, through your family, through what you have to give to the world...
It does not matter how you came into the world, what matters is that you are here.