Why must I be lonely in love?
Having a similar outlook on life is the central key for long-term sustainability in any love relationship.
Without good communication both verbally and non-verbally, then the love relationship is not sustainable and cannot grow.
The closer and more confidential our relationship with someone, the less we are entitled to ask about what we are not voluntarily told.
I love coming home to somebody, I love being in a relationship.
The basic problem with my love relationships with women is that my standards are so high - and they apply equally to both of us. I seek full-blast mutual intensity, fully fledged mutual acceptance, full-blown mutual flourishing, and fully felt peace and joy with each other. This requires a level of physical attraction, personal adoration, and moral admiration that is hard to find.
Be a loving person rather than in a love relationship.
It doesn't matter what the other is being, doing, having, saying, wanting, demanding. It doesn't matter what the other is thinking, expecting, planning. It only matters what you are being in relationship to that.
The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you'd like to see 'show up', not what part of another you can capture and hold.
Christianity is not a legal relationship; it is a love relationship.