When I was in high school... I had to measure up to my older brother, who is an Eagle Scout. And that's not a good thing.
There are so many times in life-and I've had them-when I was really afraid. I was kind of a closed-in, self-involved person who was just trying to stay in that safe place and that nest where I had good friends and people who are just like me.
We often think the exterior things-being good at sports or really smart -translate to feeling great about yourself.