I have experienced a lifetime of real moments, and many of them were happy moments.
They're basically moments in which you're in touch with the meaning of life, when your relationship to the rest of the universe makes sense.
May all that is not love within us and without be healed. May all that is love within us and without us be revealed. May every day of our lives be lived in love.
The moment in between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.
If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.