Kids who have an understanding of how and why their feelings are what they are are much more likely to talk to us about what's happening, and they have better skills to work it out.
If you can't say it to me in front of my kids, don't say it.
For me, the opposite of scarcity is not abundance. It's enough. I'm enough. My kids are enough.
Do you light up when your kids are coming in the room or do you become the instant critic?