I do a lot of teaching... and so I think I know how hard it is for young writers, how they have to work two jobs to survive.
I don't think there's just one person for everyone. It would be very hard for me to be with a guy who was not bright or funny. And he'd have to see the absurdities of the world, not exactly as I see them necessarily.
When everyone thinks they know you, it's hard not to be guarded.
People in the land of LaLa look like expensive wax fruit. And they work hard to achieve that look.