It is hard to be an individual in Japan.
Of course you keep telling yourself there's something to be learned from everything, and growing old shouldn't be that hard. That's the general drift.
That's evolution. Evolution's always hard. Hard and bleak. No such thing as happy evolution
It's a question of attitude. If you really work at something you can do it up to a point. If you really work at being happy you can do it up to a point. But anything more than that you can't. Anything more than that is luck.