I cohabited for 20 years with my longtime husband and father of my two now-teen daughters in a stable family household.
I agree that mommy wars are not good for any mothers: that such wars are time and effort wasted.
Although my life is far from perfect, the irony is that in a divorced parent's custody schedule - with days on and days off - instead of like it was before, when I felt ragged and still oddly guilty all the time, now I feel guilty but not ragged.
I'd be lying if I claimed that, in spite of our amiable afternoons, I don't have an ache somewhere in my heart that my children will not be playing Carnegie Hall anytime soon.