You can't quantify human pain the way you can measure out sugar. Death comes one individual at a time.
A great literary work can be completely, completely unpredictable. Which can sometimes make them very hard to read, but it gives them a great originality.
I am not a particularly natural writer. I am not a person who can write in paragraphs the way some writers do. For me, it's sentence by sentence, sometimes word-by-word. And I revise constantly. It's a very laborious process, but I love doing it.
It is true that those we meet can change us, sometimes so profoundly that we are not the same afterwards, even unto our names.