You are the artist and the art.
Don't change just so people will like you! Like yourself and your relationships will change. There are people who will love you for - YOU.
The more something upsets you, the more it is meant for you. When it no longer upsets you, it is no longer needed because the lesson is complete.
The love and attention you always thought you wanted from someone else is the love and attention you first need to give to yourself.