True change happens within not without
Practice presence -- embrace the place where life happens.
You are not what happens in your life. You are the space in which it happens, which is consciousness itself.
True change happens within, not without. Find the Now within. Everybody you come in contact with will be touched by your presence and affected by the peace that you emanate, whether they are conscious of it or not.
Strictly speaking, you don't think: Thinking happens to you.