Stop Looking for Permission to Be Yourself. The true individual is no more concerned over what others may think of him or her than is the sun troubled by people complaining that it's too warm, or that it shines too bright!
The Only Power You Need to Be Free of Troublesome People Since what other people do to you is not in your power to change, you need only concern yourself with what you do to yourself, for that is in your power
Most people would rather complain about some painful life pattern than dare to meet the level of their own consciousness responsible for its repeated appearance... and therein do the work needed to change it once and for all.