I will tell you from my own experience that I think he did the right thing, that he was trying to save the life of the woman and her husband, ... Maybe if somebody told me, used that terminology 35 years ago, maybe I wouldn't be where I am today ...
Your work is a separate thing from you. You are this person who has your friends and your life, and you have to see the separation. If you see the separation between your work and yourself it's so much easier.