Shame cannot survive being spoken. It cannot survive empathy.
If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable...If we speak shame, it begins to wither. Just the way exposure to light was deadly for the gremlins, language and story bring light to shame and destroy it.
Empathy doesn't require that we have the exact same experiences as the person sharing their story with us...Empathy is connecting with the emotion that someone is experiencing, not the event or the circumstance.
There really is "no effort without error and shortcoming" and there really is no triumph without vulnerability.
Empathy is the antidote to shame,
If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can't survive.
Trust is a product of vulnerability that grows over time and requires work, attention, and full engagement.
Empathy fuels connection; sympathy drives disconnection.
If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.
We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.